Bride disgusts people by uninviting parents from wedding unless they pay for it03/30/2021
A bride-to-be has split opinions online after admitted she was planning to uninvited her parents from her big day if hey didn’t cough up some cash.
The anonymous woman posted on Reddit in the “Am I the A**hole” forum to ask what people thought of her plan.
And, people were generally disgusted by the idea…
She explained that she had a “bad relationship” with her mum and dad and added that they were “never good at nurturing” and “disinterested” in her.
The bride wrote: “I'm getting married in May to the love of my life. When we started planning for the wedding, my parents made it clear that they didn't have the money nor the intention to pay for the wedding in any way.
"My fiancé and his parents are paying for about 80% of it which is the religious ceremony, the venue (with table decorations and all), the food and the music, and I am putting the last 20%, which is gonna be transportation with buses from the nearest big city to the venue, the photographer, the party favours, and my wedding dress/shoes/hair/makeup."
The bride noted that she didn’t have much money due to being unemployed in the pandemic.
She continued: "On Friday my sister called me to tell me that my parents have bought clothes for my wedding and that they have been bragging and showing it off to her.
"She told me it's really expensive over the top clothes with shoes and jewellery to go with it, and that they said that overall it had cost them close to 2,000 dollars.
“That made me angry, because they really didn't need to spend that much money on it, and if they had that money to spare I could have used it for the wedding.
"And maybe I'm vain but it bothers me that my parents are going to be better dressed than me on my wedding.
“On a deeper level, since they obviously do have the extra money it hurts me they didn't want to help with the wedding. I feel rejected and neglected, like I've always been with them."
The bride said she didn’t want to put up with it anymore.
She added: “I want them to participate financially to the wedding, even if it's just a small amount.
“My budget for party favours is 300 dollars and I want them to pay for that. And if they say they can't then I don't want them to come to my wedding.
“They were never really family anyway, my family are my siblings and my friends, and my soon to be husband.”
Reddit users had strong opinions on the matter.
One said: "YTA. It's your right to not invite your parents (or anyone) to your wedding.
"It's not your right to demand your parents (or anyone) to financially contribute to a wedding that you're choosing to have.
"Figure out whether you want your parents there at all, but leave the paying for your wedding out of it."
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Another said: "YTA – If you can't afford an expensive wedding, don't have one. Stop relying on other people to pay for the lifestyle you can't afford."
And a third wrote: “YTA, it truly doesn't matter what the details are… your parents don't automatically owe it to you to pay for your wedding because they bought new outfits to wear!
“If you can't afford the wedding you want (without assuming everyone in your family 'owes you') then you downsize or wait and save, like the vast majority of people.”
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