How do I get my fiancee to stop drinking?

How do I get my fiancee to stop drinking?


DEAR DEIDRE: I DON’T know how to help my fiancee with her serious drinking problem.

It has been an issue ever since we met. She turned up for our second date hammered because she’d had a stressful day at work.

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She’s 32, I’m 34 and we’re due to tie the knot next August, which will be our fifth anniversary.

When I did bring up her drinking, about four months into us dating, she insisted she had it under control.

But now I’ve realised she drinks all day.

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I regularly come home to find her smelling of booze and I have found wine bottles hidden at the bottom of the recycling bin.

I’ve started taking her debit card with me to work so she can’t buy more but somehow she still does it.

She needs help.

DEIDRE SAYS: You cannot make her stop – only she can do that.

But you can tell her you are worried about her and that her drinking is driving a wedge between you.

Contact We Are With You (, which helps anyone with an alcohol or drug problem as well as their families.

It sounds like she might be drinking to cope with stress. Suggest she talks to her GP. They may be able to suggest support and find her healthier ways to cope.

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