How I Do It: 'I can grab my boyfriend by the balls if I feel like it'08/20/2021
For today’s instalment of How I Do It, our weekly series in which a person shares what a week in their sex life looks like, we have Jamie*, 27, who’s been with her boyfriend for two years.
The pair live with a flatmate, one of Jamie’s friends. Jamie’s boyfriend moved in with her and her flatmate in the second lockdown.
Jamie says it ‘defies logic’ that they’re going this strong when not only is their relationship barely older than the pandemic, but they also started dating when she was fresh from a breakup and not looking for anything serious.
While there’s always room in their bedroom for improvement and feedback, Jamie is really content with their sex life, saying ‘we’re very attuned to each other now’, and that she’s not shy about ‘literally grabbing him by the balls’ when the time is right.
However, she stresses that ‘consent is key’ – she and her partner have discussed before that he’s more than happy with that kind of move.
Without any further ado, here’s how Jamie and her boyfriend have been getting on this week…
Tonight the boyfriend and I were pretty tired, but I could tell we were both starting to get a bit of a horn on. We were cheeky and banter-y as we chatted in front of Love Island with our flatmate.
But he’s been a bit grumpy and burned out from work, and I’d just got back from a gym class, so when we got into bed the minds were willing, but the bodies weren’t having it.
Still, as ever, we both enjoyed my nightly skincare routine, which involves me massaging Bio Oil onto my breasts, thighs and butt (the fight against stretch marks is ongoing) and him pretending like he’s trying not to look.
Later, I put a tank top on to go downstairs and when I got back to our room, he semi-jokingly asked me where my breasts had gone. He kissed them playfully, making me laugh before we settled into our regular bedtime cuddle with me as the big spoon, and he stroked my arm as I drifted off.
It’s clear the horn was growing as, when we woke up in the morning, one of the first things he said was a little joke about being ‘ready’ for a blowjob. He definitely gets cheekier when he’s in the mood.
We’re both working from home this week, and halfway through the workday he came into our room (where my little desk is) and flopped onto the bed with a sigh, once again announcing that he was ‘ready’.
He was not at all surprised that I didn’t really feel like taking time out of my workday to give him blowjob. I did, however, join him on the bed for a quick cuddle.
Later, our flatmate was out for the evening, and we took full advantage of the empty house. We ordered a takeaway, and I headed upstairs, making sure he could see me taking my top off as I went.
When we got to the bed, we kissed for a while and teased each other just the way each knows the other likes.
I went down on him for just long enough to get him really excited before reaching for the condoms and lube.
Afterwards, we headed back downstairs to watch some trash reality TV and enjoy the food.
Today, I had brunch with my aunt before I headed out on a date with boyfriend, the details of which have been kept secret from me for weeks.
I think it’s sweet that he’s arranged whatever it is totally out of the blue and keeping it secret struck me as surprisingly romantic.
The secret date turned out to be going to an art installation, which is something we haven’t done since before the first lockdown.
After that, we found ourselves a pub to hide from the rain in before heading home.
It was a lovely day out, but when we got off the bus near our house, he was exceedingly hangry – he is particularly prone – and by this point, between the pub and brunch, I’d had four drinks and was starting to crash, so we spent the evening chilling out with leftovers from the night before and watched an old horror film.
Today, I went to my local nail bar, and then we went to the cinema.
When we got home, we each hung out in different rooms for a bit – me enjoying a bit of self-care while I watched Criminal Minds in the bedroom with a quick break for masturbation, him downstairs sipping a drink while he caught up on some work from the week.
He cooked, and I did some laundry before we regrouped properly for dinner with our flatmate.
We went to bed fairly early, but before I really realised what I was doing, I’d slunk my way on top of him in bed and kissed him in a way that made it clear I was open to having some fun.
He was definitely up for it too, and before long the lube was on his fingers and his fingers were on me. It’s so sexy when you can tell a guy is turned on by foreplay.
We went for my favourite position tonight – me on top. When we were done, we congratulated each other on a job very well done.
Not much of note happened today.
We both powered through work, and, agreeing that we’re both approaching burnouts, talked once again about needing a good holiday and went to bed early.
The boyfriend is out of town for work tonight.
I don’t even have the headspace to masturbate this evening because I’ve got to get ready for dinner with friends not long after work.
I usually send Boyfriend a cheeky nude or two when he’s out of town, but tonight it’s just about catching up over drinks and good food.
Today I got my second Covid jab – which I am hugely pleased about.
Between that and Boyfriend being due to come home late from one of his weekly football games, I’m not expecting much tonight.
When I clock off from work, I have a cheeky wank and chill out with a drink.
When he gets back, we catch up on the sofa before heading up to bed.
He’s a bit horny, and while I’m feeling kind of frisky, my jab arm hurts and I’m getting tired, so I offer him a handjob (with my good arm) instead. I start him off with a lot of teasing before he finishes himself off while we make out.
Later, he says that regardless of whether he’s jerking himself off or I’m doing it for him, he’s thinking about me.
It sounds silly, but that struck me as really romantic. When it comes to sex, being each other’s fantasy is the best-case scenario in a relationship.
*Name has been changed
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