I resent my baby son for costing me my relationship with my dream woman09/03/2021
DEAR DEIDRE: I REALLY resent my baby son for costing me a wonderful relationship.
I am 34. Last year I met online a lovely woman, who is 32. We started dating but she wasn’t ready for anything serious.
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She said we should split, especially as the lockdowns made it hard to see each other.
I then met another woman, who is 28, and we had a one-night stand.
Unfortunately, she got pregnant and said she was keeping the baby. I didn’t want to be with her but I said I would support my child.
In the meantime, I started chatting to my lovely ex online again and she said she regretted us breaking up.
I had to tell her about my fling and the baby. To my relief, she accepted this.
At first it was fantastic and two months ago, we moved in together. But things quickly went pear-shaped.
She couldn’t handle me talking to my baby’s mother. It made her really insecure.
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A few days ago, she broke up with me again.
I am devastated. I had dreamed of having a family with her.
I know it’s wrong to resent a tiny baby but I can’t help blaming my son for the loss of my soulmate. It’s making me not want to see him.
DEIDRE SAYS: Please don’t blame your son for this. He is the innocent one here and deserves to know he has a dad who loves him and wants to be a part of his life. You also have a legal obligation to provide for him.
Your ex-girlfriend sounds insecure and jealous. There is no guarantee things would have worked out for you, regardless of your son.
You will get over this and meet someone else who accepts you and your son.
My support pack Mend Your Broken Heart may help.
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